Promise to the Blue Sky
"Sometimes it's better to love than to be right."
That's what my JC chemistry teacher Bernard Yong wrote on a card for me during cathecism class one day. I don't know what moved him to write such a thing. Maybe it was because I asked him questions incessantly during class. Haha. Or maybe he saw something in me that I didn't recognize. But I'm guessing he just couldn't take my smartass attitude. Lolz.
To me, TV drama creates a whole new set of problems for interpersonal relationships, because we get fooled into thinking that life takes its course the same way as the scripted acts on Television.
For instance, two people get into an argument. Both of them refuse to give in to the other. They give each other the cold shoulder until one of them has a revelation along the lines of "Sometimes it's better to love than to be right". He/she (Usually a man) apologizes sincerely. The other person's heart melts, and he/she (Usually a woman) apologizes in return. Both people hug. Both people compromise and get what they want.
Stereotypes (mostly from TV, but also from other sources like books) give us an idea of what to expect at the end of such an exchange, and knowing the results of such actions blurs the line between action and intent. On the surface, we might find ourselves prostrating ourselves and apologizing, but on the inside, there might be a part of us licking our lips in anticipation of a reciprocal apology or an affirmation of some sort... I know there's some sort of literary term for this sort of situation... Is it a postmodern approach to media and literature, or am I just throwing the word around carelessly?
I really liked the episode of Glee where Emma (rightly) called Will a slut. Will came to her office with flowers and a look of remorse. Emma's reply was that, though she knew that this was the part where she was supposed to be bowled over by his sensitivity and sincerity and fall into his arms, she just couldn't. The episode reminded me that there is no sure outcome when we express feelings to people.
That's what makes it all so precious though- acceptance, reconciliation, love, and connection aren't givens. When we meet people who dance to the same rhythm, listen to the same indie songs, and have the same Dota philosophy- that's when we've experience a moment of serendipity =)
Amidst troubled times, one of the most important things may be the inner strength to sit still and do nothing. When our instincts scream out for quick action and fast relief, the reverse may actually be the most crucial course of action. Finding inner calm and quietening the heart, focusing away from your inner frustration and towards the thoughts and words of others, stopping fear and anger, the enemy within, from taking control...
But enough babbling. Bazinga! Discombobulate! Mayhaps! Seconded! Perspicacious! Spoonful! Pilfer!
Serendipity
–noun
1.
an aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident.
2.
good fortune; luck: the serendipity of getting the first job she applied for.
Synonyms-
blessing
lucky break
good luck
happenstance
luck
fluke
break
That's what my JC chemistry teacher Bernard Yong wrote on a card for me during cathecism class one day. I don't know what moved him to write such a thing. Maybe it was because I asked him questions incessantly during class. Haha. Or maybe he saw something in me that I didn't recognize. But I'm guessing he just couldn't take my smartass attitude. Lolz.
To me, TV drama creates a whole new set of problems for interpersonal relationships, because we get fooled into thinking that life takes its course the same way as the scripted acts on Television.
For instance, two people get into an argument. Both of them refuse to give in to the other. They give each other the cold shoulder until one of them has a revelation along the lines of "Sometimes it's better to love than to be right". He/she (Usually a man) apologizes sincerely. The other person's heart melts, and he/she (Usually a woman) apologizes in return. Both people hug. Both people compromise and get what they want.
Stereotypes (mostly from TV, but also from other sources like books) give us an idea of what to expect at the end of such an exchange, and knowing the results of such actions blurs the line between action and intent. On the surface, we might find ourselves prostrating ourselves and apologizing, but on the inside, there might be a part of us licking our lips in anticipation of a reciprocal apology or an affirmation of some sort... I know there's some sort of literary term for this sort of situation... Is it a postmodern approach to media and literature, or am I just throwing the word around carelessly?
I really liked the episode of Glee where Emma (rightly) called Will a slut. Will came to her office with flowers and a look of remorse. Emma's reply was that, though she knew that this was the part where she was supposed to be bowled over by his sensitivity and sincerity and fall into his arms, she just couldn't. The episode reminded me that there is no sure outcome when we express feelings to people.
That's what makes it all so precious though- acceptance, reconciliation, love, and connection aren't givens. When we meet people who dance to the same rhythm, listen to the same indie songs, and have the same Dota philosophy- that's when we've experience a moment of serendipity =)
Amidst troubled times, one of the most important things may be the inner strength to sit still and do nothing. When our instincts scream out for quick action and fast relief, the reverse may actually be the most crucial course of action. Finding inner calm and quietening the heart, focusing away from your inner frustration and towards the thoughts and words of others, stopping fear and anger, the enemy within, from taking control...
But enough babbling. Bazinga! Discombobulate! Mayhaps! Seconded! Perspicacious! Spoonful! Pilfer!
Serendipity
–noun
1.
an aptitude for making desirable discoveries by accident.
2.
good fortune; luck: the serendipity of getting the first job she applied for.
Synonyms-
blessing
lucky break
good luck
happenstance
luck
fluke
break
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