Two C's
"The difference between school and life? In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson."– Tom Bodett
The above quote is something really cool that I found on my friend's blog/tumbler/tumblr. It's very witty, and very true.
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I'm not a... particularly accomplished person, not even in my self-professed field of gaming. But even though I don't have quite as many accomplishments as I'd like, I think I still have a healthy level of self-confidence in myself. I always think to myself that I'll be able to do anything I put my mind to.
While it's entirely likely that this is simply baseless overconfidence fueled by an innate tendency to build castles in the sky, lately I've been wondering if the cause lies somewhere else.
I don't have much empirical evidence to back this up, but I guess I want to put a lot it down to the fact that my parents had very high hopes for me when I was young; they had a strong sense of confidence in my potential, and today, my Mom is still quite vocal in this despite my lack of material success in most regards.
I'm not going to take anymore time to evaluate the accuracy of their beliefs, though I am grateful for my Mom's continuing support. I guess I'd just like to throw out into the open this idea, that we give children an innate sense of confidence simply by virtue of our wholehearted belief in them, that is expressed in our body language as well as every small action or gesture we perform.
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When you finally find the guts to try to look someone in the eye and connect with him/her... When you do that, you'll find a whole new set of truths and a whole new set of lies. You'll write a whole new list of 'shoulds' and a whole new list of 'should nots'. You will find new strength and new weakness.
We learn humility, and then somewhere along the line we learn false humility. We shed tears, then we learn to shed crocodile tears. We grasp sincerity, but unnoticeably, it becomes insincerity. We learn to see differences between two extremes, but while struggling between being insincere and desiring to be more than that, we find ourselves lost somewhere in the middle, very much unaware sometimes of where we stand and where we are going, unless someone is there to point things out to us.
At times I wonder if its worth it to go through all this mashing up of the rules, but at the end of the day it's always clear that being able to connect with someone is something to look forward to, be it through conversation, performance, or just spending time together. Yet, even if we reached that point, would we only find more obstacles after? It's hard to maintain sincerity in any sort of relationship or commitment, especially when we're feeling emotionally drained or physically worn out.
Lately, I've found myself slowly becoming more unwilling to accept criticism when it comes to Lindy, be it from my partner, my instructor, or my friends. Though it remains important to me, my commitment to improving seems to be getting replaced with... well, self-satisfaction, to put it bluntly. I'm not going to get into details, but I guess, if you're reading this, that I'll try to be more open to honest feedback from now on. It would really be helpful if you guys can give me some criticisms regarding how I can improve for real.
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The above quote is something really cool that I found on my friend's blog/tumbler/tumblr. It's very witty, and very true.
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I'm not a... particularly accomplished person, not even in my self-professed field of gaming. But even though I don't have quite as many accomplishments as I'd like, I think I still have a healthy level of self-confidence in myself. I always think to myself that I'll be able to do anything I put my mind to.
While it's entirely likely that this is simply baseless overconfidence fueled by an innate tendency to build castles in the sky, lately I've been wondering if the cause lies somewhere else.
I don't have much empirical evidence to back this up, but I guess I want to put a lot it down to the fact that my parents had very high hopes for me when I was young; they had a strong sense of confidence in my potential, and today, my Mom is still quite vocal in this despite my lack of material success in most regards.
I'm not going to take anymore time to evaluate the accuracy of their beliefs, though I am grateful for my Mom's continuing support. I guess I'd just like to throw out into the open this idea, that we give children an innate sense of confidence simply by virtue of our wholehearted belief in them, that is expressed in our body language as well as every small action or gesture we perform.
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When you finally find the guts to try to look someone in the eye and connect with him/her... When you do that, you'll find a whole new set of truths and a whole new set of lies. You'll write a whole new list of 'shoulds' and a whole new list of 'should nots'. You will find new strength and new weakness.
We learn humility, and then somewhere along the line we learn false humility. We shed tears, then we learn to shed crocodile tears. We grasp sincerity, but unnoticeably, it becomes insincerity. We learn to see differences between two extremes, but while struggling between being insincere and desiring to be more than that, we find ourselves lost somewhere in the middle, very much unaware sometimes of where we stand and where we are going, unless someone is there to point things out to us.
At times I wonder if its worth it to go through all this mashing up of the rules, but at the end of the day it's always clear that being able to connect with someone is something to look forward to, be it through conversation, performance, or just spending time together. Yet, even if we reached that point, would we only find more obstacles after? It's hard to maintain sincerity in any sort of relationship or commitment, especially when we're feeling emotionally drained or physically worn out.
Lately, I've found myself slowly becoming more unwilling to accept criticism when it comes to Lindy, be it from my partner, my instructor, or my friends. Though it remains important to me, my commitment to improving seems to be getting replaced with... well, self-satisfaction, to put it bluntly. I'm not going to get into details, but I guess, if you're reading this, that I'll try to be more open to honest feedback from now on. It would really be helpful if you guys can give me some criticisms regarding how I can improve for real.
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posted by moet at 7:20 AM
4 Comments:
I WILL BE MORE HONEST in giving u HONEST FEEDBACKS! so.. take them with pride! =)
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I think you've said it right that your uncertainty is due in part to your parents, and I hope you don't take it too hard on yourself, and realize that understanding is enough, for the differences are just too irreconciliable in certain ways. (Just like I)
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