Built to Last

I don't think I've ever been more keenly aware of how important some good exercise and time alone can be to having a sense of calm and balance. A few unexpected things happened this weekend, and I don't think I would have been able to handle them as well (relatively) as I did if I hadn't had this sense of tranquility.

I've received many new perspectives from a lot of different people, mainly about family and friends. I realize now that when it comes to friendships, I've always had a 'black and white' view of things. If the friends that matter to me are close at hand, I feel secure, but if they seem distant and unreachable then I get deeply discouraged and pessimistic about the friendship... Only recently was I convinced by a couple of people that even if a friend seems indifferent, I should leave things open-ended instead of cutting off ties. They told me that friends would be closer at some points in life and more distant in others.

I realized that I was the same. There are some friendships that I've either been unable or unwilling to put in as much commitment to as I used to in the past. I don't blame myself for it, and I don't blame them either. We're just at different points in our lives and sometimes there is less common ground to share. It feels a little sad because it makes friendships seem so much more transient, so much less lasting than I'd always believed they'd be... I guess that the further away we get from each other, the more fun it'll be when we finally catch up (if it's a solid friendship). Haha... I've already accepted the belief that while being a good friend and having good friends can be a part of my identity, I can't let it be the foundation of that identity.

Haha. Let me leave it at this. Friendships that stay in the past will languish if that past fades... And the past will fade, be it sooner or later.




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Word Challenge is more fun that Dota.

Languish-

1.	to be or become weak or feeble; droop; fade.

2.	to lose vigor and vitality.

3.	to undergo neglect or experience prolonged inactivity; suffer hardship and distress: to languish in prison for ten years.

4.	to be subjected to delay or disregard; be ignored: a petition that languished on the warden's desk for a year.

5.	to pine with desire or longing.

6.	to assume an expression of tender, sentimental melancholy.

–noun

7.	the act or state of languishing.

8.	a tender, melancholy look or expression.